2 Approaches

So, being a campus minister for 13 years now, I've been in and to lots and lots of weddings. Two stand out for how differently the ministers handled the rehearsal.

The first one that stands out was my own wedding. We were married in Chesapeake, Va, at my wife's great church, Aldersgate United Methodist. The warm-hearted pastor, Reverend Cofield, started us off with this kind word: "I've never had a wedding go wrong. Every single wedding I've ever done, no matter what happened during the service, by the end of it, the couple was married and were happily on their way."

This was his way of helping us to relax, to enjoy the moment. We all smiled and relaxed and I, at least, had a great time at my wedding.

Many moons later, I was reading in a wedding for a student and really good friend, Brandon Jaycox. At the outset of the rehearsal at the African-American Episcopal church, the pastor led us off with this word: "You practice like you play. If you're not disciplined before-hand, you will not have success in this event or in any part of life. Sound discipline and practice are imperative to reaching the goals you have set."

This was his way of teaching us the value and importance and in some ways the significance of what we were participating in.

Both of these stand out for how intentional they were. Both of them, I think, were a blessing to how the ceremony went.

I just think it's cool how the Lord uses the different temperaments and gifts of people in the same line of work to bless and build up his people. I see this on my InterVarsity staff team. There's three of us now, all very different, but with a common vision and with the ability to make a difference in students' lives.

Take all the job/personality match tests you want. It seems like for many kinds of work, there's space for lots of different personalities.